Between stimulus and response…

December 24, 2007

“Between stimulus and response is a space. In this space lies our freedom to choose our response. In these choices lie our growth and our happiness.”

“Regardless of the social and psychic scars you may carry inside, regardless of how others treat you, regardless of the disappointments and strains and setbacks which may blindside your finest intentions, you see the space between all of that an your freedom and power to respond to it.”

This is by Stephen Covey, the author of “7 Habits of Highly Effective People.” I have never read the book in full. But I am reading a daily reflections book of his that echoed this sentiment. Pretty powerful stuff.

It seems that as a result of practicing this, we could lose what makes us “us”. That is, our reactions, our emotional outbreaks, our wittiness, all in the quest to be self-aware. I have a friend like that and he is so uber-thoughtful on everything. Occasionally he breaks out of that shell. But usually he takes it all in and then hits you with a barage of thought.

I don’t know if I like that method so much. I want to be me. And I want to believe that people will either stick around because they like who I am, or they won’t. But then again, I guess this tells me that I can be self-aware in all cases, but that I can still react when I am aware that the consequences are low, but on the other hand that I should think carefully before I respond when the consequences are high. That sounds better to me.

But doesn’t that go without saying? I guess so. But some us are much better at it than others. I consider my self in the latter camp with a desire to improve. =]

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